It’s back there somewhere – the thought of potential failure.
It’s always present. Some days louder than others.
Triggered by something that can be random like a failure in another area of your life totally unrelated. (Sounds like I’ve been down that road).
You can block it out, but it’s still there.
How to turn that voice in your head into a positive?
- Only listen to it once a week – Not compulsively every day until it brings you down. Once a week. For no more than 30 minutes. So when you feel that voice getting louder, you say “I’ll deal with you openly and honestly Tuesday night for a half hour on the way home”.
- For every negative, a positive — During the half hour be frank about your negative thoughts. Avoid discounting them no matter how troubling they may be (i.e., “I’m afraid I’m going to mess up my presentation”). For every true negative thought, find an off-setting positive thought (“No one here knows the subject matter better than I do”).
- Get out of knocking yourself down — Speak up for you the way you would have a friend do it. No matter what the fear, do not buy into it.
Successful, happy people accept failure and learn from it. But they don’t bring it on by letting doubting voices takeover their minds.
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