About 50% of adults admit to texting while driving compared to 43% for teens and six out of ten said they weren’t doing it six years ago (2012 AT&T survey).

And often the first ones to complain about a teen texting across the table is the parent who, now we know, does it while driving more than their child.

Several years ago when I asked my USC students if they ever texted while driving, they broke out in roaring laughter.

Of course they do.

Of course we all do.

Although almost all states have laws prohibiting texting while driving or at the minimum have a distracted driving prevention campaign, this strategy will not work.

Deal with the distractions of texting and driving because occasionally it can be deadly.

But texting can also be deadly to your relationships as well.  I love my digital devices and would never give them up. 

When they become a distraction, simply put them in their proper place.

There should never again be the scene you have probably witnessed and that I am about to describe.  A single father with his young son and daughter at a Chinese restaurant.

Dad was on the phone for the entire dinner – via Bluetooth earphone.

His children sat next to each other as if dad didn’t exist talking to each other during the entire dinner.  I lost my appetite. 

Texting can also enhance a relationship.  A study in the Journal of Couple and Relationship Therapy said that the volume of text messages wasn’t as important as whether they were loving messages.

Men who texted more showed lower relationship quality.  They tended to text more as they were disconnecting from a relationship.  Less when they became more engaged.

Women who texted more often said they had higher quality relationships than those who texted more sparingly.

Once and for all.

It’s not about the device.

It’s the person.

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