It’s funny how we see self-absorption in others but never see it in ourselves.
When a person talks incessantly about themselves, that’s self-absorption.
I have a “friend” who has never asked me about my family – not my mother nor my children. My wife’s mother died at an early age and there are people she knows who don’t know this.
The word I is an indication of self-absorption.
Always having to match someone else’s story with one of yours is not only self-centered but it can be hurtful when the topic is sickness, death or loss.
Bette Midler in the movie Beaches famously said “But enough about me. Let’s talk about you. What do you think of me?”
Dale Carnegie, the master of human relations, still has it right all these decades later.
Talk in terms of the other person’s interests and you will cure 50% of our self-absorbed society.
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