When we give up control, we gain control.
Nothing can dispute this and yet giving up control is the hardest thing for a human to do.
When we stop wanting something else, we’re on the road to being able to enjoy what we have.
Relationships are demolished because of control freaks. Workplaces become intolerable because there is often little room for independent freedom.
Here’s how to take the first step:
- Identify something that you are wrestling with and decide if you have the courage to do an experiment.
- Consciously try NOT to have any control of any aspect of what you have identified. In other words, succeeding is not getting your way.
- Step back and be an observer of what is happening as you resist the temptation to give your power of persuasion away.
To be sure, letting go does not mean not caring or advocating about that which we feel passionate. But it does allow us to see the magic of removing ourselves as an obstacle to an outcome we would never have imagined – an outcome we may very well like. One thing is for sure, letting go in this context never killed anyone.
Almost ready but not quite?
Decide that when you are with your spouse next weekend that they will decide what to do, where to eat, something new to try – just be curious to see what they come up with.
In the end, letting go not only becomes a great tool in living well with others, it makes you feel good about yourself.
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