There is a chemical in our brain that has only been traced in couples who have been in love for less than two years.

It has never been discovered in anyone in a relationship for more than two years.

In that initial stage, the smell, touch and even thought of the object of our love is like catnip.

After two years, not so much.

Now this doesn’t mean people do not love deeply after two years or have great passion for each other.  It means that they need an Act 2.

Part of Act 2 is to master the three L’s.

1. Listen – Truly listening and being able to accurately relate the sentiments of others back to them is an awesome power.  To be blunt, almost no couple that has mastered the skill of listening to each other breaks up.
2. Love – When the words “I love you” become augmented with specific acts attached to the words, we have fully loved another person.  Acts of sacrifice, consideration or appreciation fuel true love that transcends when love chemicals in our brain are no longer aplenty.
3. Lead – We don’t live on this earth to give orders or take orders.  We were put here to lead.  Use our God-given skills to show the people we love options for success and fulfillment.  There is no one leader in a good marriage.  Everyone leads.

There are many things that can enhance a relationship after those first few crazy years but all of them pass through the three L’s above.

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