You help build someone up not run them down.
When people put down others, what they say is best dismissed from your mind.
The longer it lingers, the more damage the insult does.
People have a way of remembering and repeating negative input while dismissing the positive.
Think of your brain as a special place that not everyone is allowed to have direct access to.
You decide what gets in and what doesn’t.
No one gets to say things that you don’t allow – you’re in control as you should be after all, it is your brain.
So when something hurtful is said, you are the firewall that either lets it ruminate and stew or rejects it outright.
The master of human relations Dale Carnegie says “don’t criticize” — period. There is nothing good that comes from criticizing yourself or others.
Asking for positive criticism is actually asking to be put down.
There is no such thing as positive criticism.
How can I be better? That’s the best and healthiest way toward growth.
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