Boundless Energy

If health drinks help, consume them.

If exercise invigorates you then by all means do it.

The biggest energy sapper is fear and worry.

I have a friend who had her newly remodeled condo damaged from water leaking from the neighbor’s condo above.

Insurance issues and legal threats burdened everyone including this person for perhaps the worst Christmas she has had in a long time.

Yet, she is healthy.

Gainfully employed.

Enjoying lots of friends.

How can this happen?

We worry about the 1% that will never happen and even if it does, it won’t happen the way we imagined it would.

Worry about worry.

Doomsday narratives take over our lives.

In the case of my friend, all was restored by spring. Insurance paid for it and the community association added new rules of protection for the future. The condo that started the damage even got a new kitchen out of it.

This is not an aberration.

It’s what happens when we let worry and fear sap our energy.

As long as there is hope always assume everything will work out just fine.

It usually does.

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Regaining Your Narrative

Employers set the rules even if they don’t call them rules.

Social media defines how we relate to some of our best friends whether we care to admit to it or not.

Even when we know our life is headed the wrong way, we feel powerless to change it.

Regaining your narrative means that you take part in your life’s decisions.

If you don’t like being on call all the time, find a job where you’re not (France forbids email after work requirements for employees.  Don’t tempt me).

If you’re having a hard time telling your friends from your business contacts, maybe it’s time to stop emailing them in lieu of face time or phone time.

If you feel you are not living up to your potential, your employer or your friends and family will not be the ones to change that narrative.  Only you can and should do that.

If you run into me on one of New Jersey’s beaches this summer, you will see me walking endlessly up and down the beach and into the ocean.

I am having a private conversation with myself.  I do it every year.

I’m asking, do you want to keep doing what you’re doing?

Is there something else that is important to you?

Am I being called to another adventure and I’m so busy I don’t know it yet?

What results is a contract with myself to do the things I want to do and not mindlessly repeat another year without that which I crave.

Regain the narrative by first taking control of your narrative.

From there, all things are finally possible.

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How Not to Give Up

This is compelling evidence for me.

The people who have enjoyed success in life or who have come back from adversity have one thing in common.

They never give up.

Thomas Edison failed over 10,000 times before he developed his alkaline storage battery but Edison seems like someone not like us.

Yet there it was again, the refusal to give up.

When I look around my own life and world I see examples of people who despite adversity never gave up.

They outwaited failure.

They out worked their competitors.

We can read all the motivational books we care to but in the end the question is are you ready to keep trying until you get what you want?

If so, you have discovered the “secret” to success.

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How to Win More Friends

Get them to talk about themselves.

We do that a lot in our world now – talk about us.

But if you want people to like you and even think you are a great conversationalist, try asking questions.

How is your mother? 

Have you seen any good movies? 

What do you think about the new iPhone?

Tell me all about your vacation? 

Can you imagine someone asking you questions like these and actually listening to the answers?

Without weighing in with how your family is or your favorite movie.

By asking questions about others, we endear ourselves to them even in a self-absorbed world.

Think of it like this.

We have the power to make people like us by how sincerely we want to hear them talk about their lives.

The difference between a Facebook friend or even a casual friend is our ability to make it all about them when we talk.

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Email “Friends”

We’ve gotten lazy.

A text or an email is not a conversation.

If a friend is worth having, they will converse preferably in person and if that’s not possible by phone.

If you text, I can’t hear your voice and all that it conveys.

If we email, we’re making business out of personal.  I don’t know about you but I don’t need another email every day.  A phone call, I’d welcome.

We’re sending a bad example to those around us especially our children because one day they will be texting instead of talking and everyone loses.

Through research and by the testimony of psychologists we are mistaking our phones for a lifestyle that in the end won’t be any more rewarding than a business email even if it comes from family members.

Everybody in the world has a phone without regard to their economic means.

But the real value of a phone is to stay connected and enjoy the meandering nature of two people responding to each other in real time.

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