Not Putting Your Life on Hold

Often the best way to discover a fuller life is to look to a cancer survivor or other person challenged with a life-threatening illness.

They almost universally find a way to acquire the secret to not putting their life on hold even as they face extensive medical treatment and become anxious about their prospects for living.

Live life now – never put it on hold.

Not for health.

Or a divorce.

A personal problem or tragedy.

A career bump in the road.

Ironically, those who live life to the fullest are the ones who are fighting to overcome health issues.

There are no guarantees for anyone even people blessed with good health for the moment.

Tomorrow never comes for people who cannot live life in the present even if they make it to 100.

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Subtle Bullying

The manager who repeatedly leaves you (or your opinion) out of the meeting. 

Encouraging others to avoid you until you feel left out.

Failure to include you on a regular basis promoting isolation. 

Allowing others to criticize or demean you without stopping it or clearly distancing themselves from that criticism. 

Looking to others less qualified to do what you are qualified (and perhaps even hired) to do. 

Put downs followed by a “harmless” joke. 

All passive-aggressive people. 

Pitting two people against each other so that they will turn against each other so that the bully comes out “winning”. 

Setting people up to fail using unrealistic expectations.

Subtle bullies try to befriend their victims often over a long period of time (or torture).

The only cure is to get rid of the bullies.

Zero tolerance at work or in your life.

Obvious bullies back down and search for an easier victim when they are stood up to.

Subtle bullies look elsewhere when they are exposed to their employers, peers or friends and called out in a public way.

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  • What do you do when you report to the subtle bullies? I can totally relate to this post and it’s quite timely, but when the subtle bullies are your boss and they are obsessed with choking you out in a subliminal manner, it becomes toxic…

When to Stop Chasing Your Dream

That’s the question my music students frequently asked.

Their parents understandably wanted them to have another way to earn a living just in case.

But “just in case” is an economic solution not a career solution.

You never stop chasing your dream.

That’s the only answer if you want to be happy.

In fact, the more elusive it is, the more opportunity you have to find out how badly you really want it.

It may change or may become bigger and bolder or less so.

Imagine if all the people in the world who dared to dream never gave up.

The biggest roadblock to achieving that which we have a passion for is allowing ourselves to believe for whatever reason – money, age, time to grow up – that there is a time or reason to stop dreaming.

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  • Have you found your dream or are you still chasing it?

Eliminating Distraction

Carter Hart, the NHL Philadelphia Flyers goalie prospect of the future is about to turn 20 and to celebrate becoming a pro, Hart deleted his Twitter account.

Says there no point in it.

“You see a lot of news and stuff, and whether it’s positive or negative, you just don’t want to hear that stuff. For me, I just try to stay away from it and worry about what I’m doing and where I’m at right now.”

The best way to focus is to avoid distractions.

Social media consumes us with likes and follows.  We see people arguing over politics, often being nasty to each other.  The bad sometimes rivals the good.

Two things.

Disconnect or at least step back from the black hole of social media and see how much more focused you can become. 

And, recapture valuable time wasted on being buried in devices to follow people that often don’t matter to you.

It doesn’t take a lot to refocus your life with people, places and dreams that have more of a chance coming true in the here and now than glued to a screen on a digital device.

What really makes you happy is so possible the more often you can focus on it.

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Working for People We Can’t Stand

I hated the toughest boss I ever had.

He was a news director who required his newscasters to write all-new copy every half hour and find new news and audio.

He listened to every broadcast.

Called in and ripped you if your broadcast didn’t meet his approval.

It was the only job I hated in radio and now I know I love the guy.

He made me realize I really wanted to be a radio program director which I then went on to do – not a news reporter.

I swore I would never write another word after working for him, but I went on to a career in publishing resembling his tough style of reporting.

I owe him my writing and reporting skills.

Sometimes the best jobs we will ever have will be working for people we can’t stand.

Proving that having to endure tough employers may be more life changing than working for a pushover.

As long as we eventually move on to take what we’ve learned about them, us and what we do to achieve further success.

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