Nice people can be complainers, but nothing is more of a turnoff than to be in the company of someone who can find unhappiness in everything.
Many don’t even know they are doing it.
A friend recently told me how unhappy she was at work and when I suggested looking for another job, more complaints followed.
Complainers like to complain.
Life is too important to have it buzz-killed by complainers.
Let them vent for a while but when you realize you can’t get them to stop the negative talk, interrupt with a positive question.
Are you on LinkedIn? That’s a good start and a positive move toward a better job.
But if the conversation drifts back to the negative – and it will – move on. Stop the conversation. Walk away. Hang up. End it.
Just as we have MRI evidence that our brain reacts a certain way when we’re happy, the brain can be trained to be negative and you are neither doing yourself or your friend a favor by continuing that negative behavior.
Complaints are good, they allow us to vent.
Fixation on what’s wrong changes our brain and makes it very difficult to have healthy relationships.
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