Avoiding This Mistake in Pursuing Your Dreams

Don’t wait until your dream comes true to live them.

Waiting for dreams can be dangerous.

Obviously, dreamers can picture in their mind’s eye in palpable ways what it is they are after – a good thing.  The clearer the picture, the better the chance of attaining the goals.

But waiting for that exact right moment will guarantee that you miss many moments in between that could change what you’re after or at least alter it.

On the way to your ultimate dream are a lot of wonderful opportunities to be successful and happy.  You don’t want to pass them by.

Dreaming is often more rewarding than waiting – often in vain – for that one dream to come true.

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Overcoming Failure Faster

Everyone fails.

Some build on that failure and some let it get into their psyche.

Study any successful or happy person and you are likely to see a life of ups and downs – some hurtful and significant — that they have to overcome.

Much has been said about how to overcome obstacles, but nothing works faster or better then this technique used by those who shake it off.

Deal with failure and move on.

We let failure stick around like a bad cologne when the first thing to do is move on.

A sports team in a slump lets failure get into their psyche.  They bear down harder and still can’t turn it around.  Waiting for luck can be a long wait.

To quote the old R&B song “One Monkey Don’t Stop No Show” means one setback should not prevent further progress.

If we’re going to let negative failure thoughts take valuable space up in our heads, we are not going to learn from our mistakes and are likely to get stuck in a bad place.

If we are willing to deal with our difficulties and then – and this is the important part – move on, then we have discovered the secret to overcoming failure faster.

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For Those Who Have a Hard Time Living in the Now

Picture this.

The past is a file that we can recall whenever we need it.

But, always remember to close that file and return to the present.

The future is about hopes and dreams.  We go there to plan our lives and next moves.

But, if we fail to return to today, those hopes and dreams rarely happen and if they do come to fruition then we’re not in the right place to enjoy them.

Open files and unfinished plans lead us to a life of distraction.

Waiting for a future event like paying off bills, meeting the right mate, or seeing your children off to college can cause us to miss out on all the joy that we experience in between.

Ever notice how anxious we get when we anticipate even wonderful things that could happen in the future.

It isn’t necessary to get everything out of your mind to live in the now.

Just the ability to focus on the one and only life we will ever have – the one that is happening in real time.

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Stopping Too Much Phone Use

I know a nurse who is the single mother of three children – a nice woman with a big heart and the brashness of being born and bred in New Jersey.

There was a teenage girl sitting in the waiting room of her office – with her feet up on a sofa, a sour puss and lots of whining going on while she was glued to her phone oblivious to those around her.

My friend said that when her kids abused their phones and used them for the wrong purposes or withdrew from social interaction, she would call Verizon and shut their phones off.

I was shocked.  I said, “You didn’t?”.  She said, “Yes I did”.

And the repercussions were crying and more crying until her teens decided that they were going to observe and keep their mother’s rules at which point their Verizon accounts were switched back on.  (Yes, this has happened on and off for many of their teen years).

It’s not kids alone who are abusing their phones but parents who refuse to parent and enforce some guidelines.

That’s great for kids, but what about adults who are far more abusive in digging their phones out of their pockets and handbags.

That’s when we must come up big.

Either give me the same 100% focus you give your cellphone or else, move on and leave them to the lonely world of their own devices.

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Get 30-60 Minutes Back Every Day

Email is not just a presidential election issue.  It is strangling all of us.

Even where we still make phone calls, we then waste time memorializing them in a follow-up email.

Email is killing us and not necessarily making our lives better, richer or more productive.  That’s why those who study sociological trends are already talking about the decline of email.

Because email is consuming lives, what’s the way out?

You can do the math, but I spend hours personally and in my businesses with email.  I easily get 1,000 emails for every one call I get at my office.  So, you can see 30-60 minutes is a fair estimation of time I could get back if only I would – well, take my iPhone and make a call.

The biggest problem is work.

Email is so engrained into the daily operations of businesses that you will have a heck of a time weaning others off.

Some ideas to try starting this morning:

  • Write one line emails that say “I will call you” or “Call me” and we can discuss.  Emails do not allow us to read the mood, intention, or personality of others whereas in phone calls we can.
  • Avoid leaving long phone messages.  That’s bad and time consuming.  Just, “hey, it’s Jerry – need to talk” and phone number.
  • Try not to answer certain emails at all if it is really not necessary.
  • Be careful of collaborative sites Iike Slack that allow messaging in teams.  This is very often a time waster.  Email multiplied by X times.
  • And for family, spouse, kids – make the call even if your teenage daughter isn’t likely to return it (or listen to it).

Changing time wasting behavior starts with whether we’re willing to try.

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