Calming Workplace Anxiety

Bosses and associates bring their own issues to work and that multiplies anxiety by the number of people exposed to it.

It’s tough enough dealing with your own stress let alone having it amplified by others.

Heavy workloads rarely cause anxiety, living with the unwanted stress of others or personally-inflicted sabotage to your own confidence does.

Be keenly aware of others’ anxiety and reject it at every turn.

Be proactive not passive in standing up to the unwanted anxiety of others at work.

To get through it, think of yourself as your own boss when doing your work reminding yourself that you are the person in control.

When you first feel uncomfortable, act.

Repeat often:  I have earned the right to have this job.  

Let go of your stress and feel it flutter away like a butterfly – visualize calm. 

When any job becomes not worth it because it makes you feel more stressed, even the act of looking for alternative employment has an immediate stress reducing effect.

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Trusting Yourself

When it’s a matter of life and death, men and crewmembers survive sinking ships in greater numbers than women and children.

It’s truly every man for himself.

Maritime disasters are tragic events but they show us how ordinary people react under stressful situations.

So it’s back to you trusting you in everyday life.

You can’t expect the trust of another if you’re not willing to 100% trust yourself first.

You have all you need for trust.

Start first by listening to your instincts. 

No one knows you better than you do, that counts for a lot.

Trust is not a wish or hope, it’s a hard choice that precedes the end result.

When you doubt yourself, you are hurting yourself.

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Deciding What To Do With Your Life

Why do we pressure ourselves to pick one thing?

Why do we limit ourselves because of age (too young, too old)?

You don’t have to decide once and for all – you can do it again and again. 

Life happens, things change, you morph into a different person so why pressure yourself into a decision that may be wrong?

Renew your “contract with yourself” every year – if you like what you’re doing, vow to continue for another year.  If you’re antsy for change, pursue the change. 

Don’t be the one to put limitations on what you want to do and certainly don’t accept limitations from others. 

Even if you’re not qualified, dream on – you can acquire the skills if you’re really motivated.   

Don’t give up before you decide.  Excuses like “I don’t have the education or background” are self-defeating.

It’s your dream not what others want you to do. 

Money is an excuse for not even trying to attain the life you want – no one successful has been rolling in money on the way up. 

Think of your life as a canvass – it’s yours to paint on as you wish.

Picasso wouldn’t hand a brush to someone else and say “here, you paint my picture”.

As long as you are alive and able, see your dreams and then see them through. 

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Gaining Confidence

Sounding confident doesn’t mean being confident.

Talk to yourself as a believer in you – not to convince other people that you are competent.

Instant confidence booster:  always think of the things you do well, no reason to concentrate on things you are criticized for.

Confidence is perishable – when things go good it automatically gets better, when things are tough, confidence is strained. 

Sticking with something is a confidence builder.

Failing is a strength, take credit for your willingness to overcome adversity. 

Often, just saying something positive about yourself, builds confidence. 

Before I speak to audiences, I always remind myself that I have earned the right to be standing there.  That I have the skills to share what is on my mind and that I respect the audience the way I expect them to respect me.   It never fails.

Confidence is your ability to handle anything, deal with everything and stick with it until you succeed.

Failing has nothing to do with losing confidence.

Forgetting about the fine person you are has everything to do with it.

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Overcoming Doubt

It’s normal to question ourselves from time to time.

But never to doubt our ability, motives or confidence.

Never bet against yourself. 

Overcome doubt with focusing on past accomplishments – big and small. 

Doubt is personal sabotage. 

Anything worth doing is worth believing.

Often doubting ourselves is simply fear of failing – banish the thought. 

It’s not fair to ask others to believe in you if you’re not prepared to believe in yourself.

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