6 Ways To Get Real Happy, Real Fast

Sometimes you don’t need meds, shrinks or even friends to jumpstart a better mood.

Life is full of ups and downs.

I know from my television and radio career that sometimes you don’t feel like being happy.  You just want to be left alone until you snap out of it.  That’s a luxury we don’t have in that business.

Before I speak, I try physical activity and nine times out of ten, my emotions rise to the occasion.

But I found these great ideas to get real happy, real fast.  I hope you like them and if you do pass them on to others:

  1. Pump up your activity level.  Increase exercise or even take a walk.  It helps.
     
  2. Contact someone who makes you happy to be in their company.  Even a text or an email will do.
     
  3. Get rid of things that bother you in your space.  Set a timer and see how you feel after 10 minutes.
     
  4. Do a good deed for another – even if you don’t know them.  Practice random acts of kindness (this always works for me).
     
  5. Paste a smile on your face.  My friend Jay Cook was a disc jockey at WFIL, Philadelphia. Before he opened his mike to talk, he broke into a big smile.  Try it.  It works.
     
  6. Do something new.  Anything.  Discovery leads to happiness.

We wouldn’t be human if we didn’t get down from time to time.

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Things That Say Love

I accept you the way you are.

Actually, psychologists say that try as we may, we can only change 10% of a person – if that!  Mister Rogers was right when he said, “I like you just the way you are.”

It’s all about you, not me.

Try that one in this era of self-absorption.  You’ll feel the love in return.

Forgive me.  I forgive you.

No words can be more powerful that these in a living relationship.

I’m focusing on just you. 

Whatever time can be devoted to giving undivided attention is time well spent.

I will make you laugh.

Laughter heals tears. 

Here’s a hug.

I know no one who doesn’t feel better after a hug.

I will listen.

Open your heart when you open your ears.

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Living in the Now

I’m really bad at this.

My entire life I have ascribed any success I might have had to the fact that I see the future.  In fact my music media website is all about the future.

But it’s a bad prescription for happiness.

It didn’t take a psychologist, just Ralph Waldo Emerson to remind me that “Life is a journey, not a destination.”

I discovered this great game plan in Psychology Today:

  1. Loosen up – no one is watching you.  Be less self-conscious.
     
  2. Avoid worrying about the future by savoring the present — Eat, Pray, Love, Elizabeth Gilbert writes about a friend who, whenever she sees a beautiful place, exclaims in a near panic, “It’s so beautiful here! I want to come back here someday!” “It takes all my persuasive powers,” writes Gilbert, “to try to convince her that she is already here.”
     
  3. If you want a future with your significant other, inhabit the present.
     
  4. To make the most of time, lose track of it.
     
  5. If something is bothering you, move toward it and not away from it (acceptance).
     
  6. Know that you don’t know.  Harvard’s Ellen Langer says, “Develop the habit of always noticing new things in whatever situation you’re in. That process creates engagement with the present moment and releases a cascade of other benefits.”
     
  7. Don’t just do something, sit there.  As the article points out, “If you’re aware of that feeling right now, as you’re reading this, you’re living in the moment. Nothing happens next.  It’s not a destination.  This is it.  You’re already there.”

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Never Say Goodbye

I saw an article in the New York Times just before New Year’s in which the movie critic Robert Ebert never said goodbye to his longtime television partner, Gene Siskel.

Humorist and writer Nora Ephron never told her friends that she had a terminal illness.  Her friend, the actress Meryl Streep said she felt ambushed. 

Saying goodbye forever is an individual’s own call.

I’m more interested in saying “hello” over and over.

The article listed some ways that people could leave this earth without divulging much to others.  I looked at the list and thought we should only do these things while we’re healthy, happy and here.

  1. Say Nothing – sometimes the less said, the better.
     
  2. Say Something Before It’s Too Late – You don’t have to be dying to be human and communicate.
     
  3. Say the Obvious.  I love you.  I appreciate you.  Forgive me.  I forgive you.  Great stuff while living in the moment.
     
  4. Say It With Deeds – Showing love rather than saying it is also very, very effective.
     
  5. Say It If They Can’t Hear You – Saying I’m sorry even if you are not yet able to tell that person is an elixir that’s worth taking over and over again.  It transforms you and prepares you to have meaningful conversations when you can be heard.

Waiting until the end is no way to live life.

Live in the moment as if every day is your last.

“What day is it?”
“It’s today,” squeaked Piglet.
“My favorite day,” said Pooh.
— A.A. Milne

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Improving Family Life in the Digital Era

The litmus test of a solid family is how many times you eat dinner together.

Especially important in the digital age.

Does this picture scare you?  It should.

Social and digital communication is the great innovation of our age.  But it is not a replacement for face-to-face social interaction.

A psychologist told me that he recommend that families have dinner together. 

Mobile devices off!

I’m talking to mom and dad here because you can’t preach face-to-face interaction if you’re going to say one thing and do the other. 

Talk about your day.  School.  Work. People. Politics.  Movies.  Anything. 

A girl told me her parents were adamantly against using digital devices as babysitters when adults want to talk.  The other day the adults were having a good time and the two and three year old were getting restless.

The mother broke her rule and handed them her iPhone.

Until she sucked it up and took them home instead.

Don’t ruin great mobile digital devices by making them a substitute for face time.

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