How To Make People Exceedingly Happy

Two steps.

One, exceed expectations.

Two, when something is wrong, promise to make it right.

This rule also applies to great customer service.  Imagine dealing with a business that is committed to exceeding your expectations.  And when something goes wrong, you hear a sincere promise to make it right.

In fact, I use that actual term in my dealings.  When it’s broke, we’ll make it right which means it has to be more than words to keep that promise.

A human being can ask no more of you than to do better than they expect and to fix problems until satisfaction is achieved.

Most retail businesses get this wrong – they talk a good game, but fall far short.

Most employees think pleasing the boss is so impossible that they often stop trying.

In relationships with children there is no room for empty parental promises and plenty of room to right the wrongs that come between you.

In the end what turns about being the right thing to do for others is ironically also the right thing to do for ourselves.

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Put a Stop/Loss on Worry

Worry doesn’t ruin people’s lives.

The fear of worry does.

99% of the things we worry about never happen but it is the anticipation of what we fear could happen that paralyzes us, brings illness, wrecks relationships and puts a damper on happiness.

My father had a heart attack when he was 37.  He lived to be 82.  My mother was a professional worrywart and her son became pretty skilled at it, too.

The best book I ever read on worry was Dale Carnegie’s How To Stop Worrying and Start Living.  In a moment I will share a great way to use that book to put a stop/loss on worry.

But first, three facts you should know about worrying: 

  1. Live in day tight compartments.  Don’t stew about the future.  Just live each day until bedtime. 
  2. Remind yourself of the exorbitant price we can pay for worry in terms of health.  “Those who don’t know how to fight worry die young”.
  3. Ask yourself what is the worst that can possibly happen if you can’t solve your problem.  Prepare yourself mentally to accept the worst — if necessary.  Then calmly try to improve upon the worst — which you have already mentally agreed to accept.

Now the hint.

Buy a paperback copy of Carnegie’s book or download it to a tablet or reader and read one chapter at a time.  Only one.  Read it over and over again as many times as necessary.  Only when you have mastered the principle in each chapter, move on to the next but not before you’ve begun to see yourself breaking the worry habit.

“Today is our most precious possession. It is our only sure possession” – Dale Carnegie

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Adversity Introduces A Person To Him or Herself

I know three people in my life right now who have had or have cancer. 

They are all under 30.

One has had serious breast cancer surgery.  One had leukemia as a teenager.  And the third just found out a few days ago that she will have to have a suspicious lump removed.

This is unfair but life can be unfair. 

When cancer comes calling, this horrible disease seems to bring the best out of people.  Most victims find out how strong they really are even if previously they never felt strong.  Those around them automatically offer their support, a hug, a prayer, a friendship to help them through the crisis.

What a wonderful world this would be if we could do all those things for each other without having it prompted by serious illness.

In fact we can – now.

The cure for cancer is partially in the hands of physicians and partially in the mind of the person fighting for their health.  

The prescription for being a good friend to yourself and others is to offer the cure without the disease.

Adversity introduces a person to him or herself and to those around them.

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It’s Not All About Me – It’s All About You

In a world where “it’s all about me”, the clamor of everyone vying for attention is tough on interpersonal relations.

At Philadelphia International Airport last week, I saw a young businesswoman who was irked because she had been waiting for a shuttle bus to take her from the car rental lot to the terminal.  She had every right to be upset because she could have missed her flight.  No one seemed to respond to her concern so she tweeted to Hertz to tell them that this is “not exactly” the service they promise.

I’m good with that.

But one wonders if we are equally motivated to catch someone doing something right.  To commend them – publicly and to their employers and to use the power of your personality to make someone’s day.

Here’s the approach I like:

  1. Identify the deed and then tell the person who did it what impressed you.  To avoid mere flattery, give a specific example.  Keep a keen eye out for people you can recognize for something good they have done.
  2. Tell others around them about the good deed, excellent service or news about that which exceeded your expectations.
  3. Get your cell phone out and take it viral
  4. Let their employer know.

Steps 1-3 take only a minute.

Step 4 if you are so motivated requires a few minutes more. 

If you want to make more friends in a few minutes than you could make trying to impress them, appoint yourself as the person who is ordained to appreciate the efforts and spirit of others.

One added benefit:  how good it makes you feel.

“The best minute you spend is the one you invest in people” – Ken Blanchard

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The First Duty of Love Is To Listen

True love is when two people are each other’s best listener.

Tuned in, responsive.

Eager to practice the awesome power of listening to show that they deeply care.

Marriage counselors will tell you that when they conduct counseling sessions with two warring partners one or both parties scream out to be heard.  The two often speaking past each other without even noticing.

A basic human need and one not often recognized for its importance before it is too late is the need to be heard.

Anyone can do it, but it takes some practice.

Focus on the person.

Receive the message.

Respond (don’t react).

No relationship has ever been strong without the ability to listen to each other.

The simple act of listening is true love.

“The first duty of love is to listen” – Anonymous quote

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