No one wants to follow a person who only has eyes for themselves.
It’s hard to make sacrifices for those who seem more interested in what they get from your efforts instead of what everyone gets.
As a disc jockey, I worked for a program director who installed a direct line into the studio to chew you out after every mistake. Since you can’t have a telephone ring while a microphone may be open, this boss hooked the phone up to a 150 watt floodlight.
I can still feel the heat of that light flashing to this day.
A real leader begins with praise and honest appreciation.
This is the key to motivation.
It is impossible for one’s ears to remain closed when they are listening to some form of praise and appreciation.
So try it for a day.
No big announcements.
Just a little private experiment.
Try to use this one-two punch before asking someone to do something for you: 1) begin with sincere praise; 2) show appreciation.
Keep a tally and see if in one day you haven’t discovered what great leaders already know or as Dale Carnegie put it:
“Praise a man (person) for what he does well, then gradually help him with his shortcomings. This method will work in an office, in a factory, in one’s home, with wife (spouse), children and parents, with almost anyone in the world.”