There are so many books, apps and lectures designed to teach us to win the enthusiastic cooperation of others.
But here’s one I have used – it’s short, it’s sweet and it never fails to work.
Stand next to the person whose 100% cooperation you are seeking.
- With their permission, ask if you can grasp their hand and then ask them to pull as hard as they can away from you while you pull in the opposite direction. Point out that when this happens in life or at the workplace, the struggle becomes the only result. No ground is gained.
- Then continuing to clasp them by the hand, ask the other person not to pull away from you – just stand still. Now, point out that even when people don’t consciously resist, they are not readily moving in the same direction. They become deadweight.
- Finally, ask the other person to move with you as you grasp their hand and pull in the same direction. This illustrates how two people moving in the same direction can get there faster.
I’ve done this at meetings where you ask attendees to pair off and try it.
From now on, you have graphically instructed those around you that enthusiastic cooperation is an active function that requires moving forward not resisting and most importantly that standing still is not enthusiastic cooperation.
“People who work together will win, whether it be against complex football defenses, or the problems of modern society” – Vince Lombardi