Boost Confidence by Focusing on Success

Everything we do wrong is in the front of our minds.

We churn it up, regurgitate it and even invite others to remind us of our failings by being first in to insult ourselves.

We think of what we have done wrong more than what we have done right.

There is research to prove that when we think like this we are actually programming parts of our brain to continue making us think this way.

But MRIs have observed the changes in the brain when people attempt to shortcut negative thoughts and replace them with more positive ones.

Not pep talks but step talks that elevate thinking to the next level of possibilities instead of shortcomings.

Every failure is a rehearsal for future success.

Even on a bad day, think of the things you have done right and replay them as often as you obsess about the negative.

Small successes work as well as big ones to help train our brains.

To boost confidence, stop the band aids and think of recording positive thoughts in your brain because after a month or two, research shows your brain will help you to do this more automatically.

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Golden State Warriors: Motivating by Doing Nothing

The Golden State Warriors head coach Steve Kerr has won two world championships with his talented team that has changed the way basketball is played.

When Kerr senses the team is tired of hearing from him, he buttons it up often handing play-creating power over to a leader on the team that everyone respects.

This is not always the team’s superstar.

Work teams off the court could also learn from this.

Sometimes team members stop listening.

In fact, research shows some of the best coaches of all-time know when to do nothing.  Incessantly cramming more directions and continuing endless teaching is counterproductive.

As Kerr says:  “It’s their team …I think that’s one of the first things you have to consider as a coach.…Our job is to nudge them in the right direction, guide them, but we don’t control them. They determine their own fate.”

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The Most Effective Number of To-Do’s Today

Whether keeping a task list or not, there is a shortage of things that need to be done.

Sometimes we make lists or use our phones to remind us.

There is evidence that we are trying to do too much which is too bad because even when accomplishing numerous things, we get the feeling that we didn’t have that productive a day.

The max number for peak productivity is seven.

Better yet, five tasks as a goal someday.

How to choose the seven priorities for today?

Which things are going to provide the most success, productivity, happiness and/or revenue.

Then focus on those 7 things.

This means a lot of other things will be sidelined, but according to time experts, doing less with more focus delivers the better result.

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Emotional Support

Dogs are great emotional support aides for people who have experienced PTSD.

Warmth, approval, companionship, less isolation, reduced levels of stress and anxiety – these things matter to people suffering from stress.

People could also be emotional supporters if they attempt to provide these benefits to others.

More time.

More companionship.

Approval and acceptance.

It’s a sign of our times that we live with so much stress and emotional upheaval so it gives us an opportunity to supply the very things an ESA does.

One added benefit is that when giving emotional support to others, we are also the beneficiaries.

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Jeff Bezos Work-Life Balance

Maybe trying to balance work and life together is the wrong approach.

Amazon’s Jeff Bezos thinks of it as a work-life circle and that it shouldn’t be looked at as a strict tradeoff.

Now as work follows us into our personal life through digital and social connectivity, any balance is hard to achieve.

Work-life, two integrated parts.

Circular in that they intermix with each other.

The mega billionaire Bezos has breakfast with his family every morning, does not set an alarm clock at night, avoids scheduling meetings (timewasters) and as busy as he is, does his own dishes.

Tech mixed with living.

Being aware of the need for balance in life is probably more helpful than actually wrestling with keeping work and life equal.

Better yet maybe to inject both elements into daily living in an attempt to remain in the now as a function of daily life.

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