People don’t want advice.
They want someone to listen to them without passing judgment and – and this is the hard part – without offering any solutions.
Advice is a misnomer.
It should be to listen.
Do they really want help with their divorce or a sounding board to air their frustrations and concerns?
Do they really truly want career advice or do they want to vent about the job they hate because even if you share with them a gem of wisdom, they’re likely not going to hear it or act on it.
Does the person who lost a loved one want to hear “be strong”, “they lived a long happy life” or “they’re in a better place” when there are no words to convey loss. Just being there is the elixir that makes a difference.
The ears are more powerful than the mouth when it comes to “advising” others – it is the little-known secret of human relations.
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